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Heather34
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Post All Things DILATING
on: December 29, 2011, 15:28

Hi ladies. DILATING deserves a separate and distinct category all on its own. Briefly, I remember this being one of my biggest fears pre-procedure. I had no idea how I would ever be able to dilate successfully if I could not even insert a q-tip without pain. I couldn't have been more wrong in my fears and worry and was able to successfully dilate post-procedure. I was trained on how to do this by both Dr. Pacik and Ellen who exhibited patience with the process and very thoroughly explained it and worked with me through it all. It was just so, so much easier to do than I anticipated. This category is entirely dedicated to dilating questions (i.e. What is it like to wake up with the dilator in place? Tips on inserting and re-inserting? Use of Lidocaine/Surgilube Mixture? Should my husband/partner be involved with dilating? How often should I dilate? For how long should I dilate?). Again, I had so many of the same questions prior to my procedure, as did so many of the other women who have been treated.

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Post Re: All Things DILATING
on: December 30, 2011, 10:06

Great idea for a thread! I am finding that sleeping with the dilator every night helps. Every night it becomes easier and easier. Then I am even able to insert it in positions that were impossible to before.

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Post Re: All Things DILATING
on: December 30, 2011, 11:19

Hi L. Very true!!! I found that sleeping with the dilator in every night helped so much in the beginning. I would sleep with purple all night long and once I woke up and removed it, I could easily insert pink. I then began sleeping with pink and would wake up and be able to insert blue much easier as well. I also think that the transition to intercourse is much easier in the morning after dilating the night before because the dilating makes you that much more open. Great post!

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on: December 31, 2011, 10:16

Hi, I'm booked in with Dr Pacik in January, feeling nervous about it. I'm worried I'm going to panic / freak out when I wake up with the dilator inside. Did you have the same concerns? Did you find it easier to dilate after the procedure? I find it impossible at the moment and the thought of dilating for a couple of hours a day & sleeping with a dilator is really daunting. Are you still dilating now even though you've had success with intercourse? Sorry lots of questions!

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on: December 31, 2011, 12:29

Hi Lou! Concerning the dilating, it’s entirely normal to feel nervous about this. Prior to my procedure, even the name “dilator” freaked me out. I tried to do dilating on my own several times and just couldn’t do it. I honestly couldn’t even insert a q-tip without pain. So, I didn’t ever think I would be able to insert a dilator. I couldn’t have been more wrong about this. Basically, you wake up with the largest blue dilator already inside of you. I remember when I went back to the recovery room, I had to go to the bathroom once I woke up. This is the point where I took out the blue dilator, went to the bathroom, and was able to easily re-insert it. This was “huge” for me as I had never, ever been able to insert anything pain-free before. Then, both Dr. P and Ellen work with you by showing you how to insert and re-insert the dilators. You then have a dilation schedule where Dr. P wants you to dilate 2 hours per day and sleep with the dilators. Again, this sounded impossible to me prior to the procedure but did work well post-procedure. I used the philosophy that every single day is different with dilating. Some days, it worked really well and others, it was more challenging. I kept at it and it became a part of my daily routine. I still sleep with the dilators around 3 times per week and intend to for a full year. I know that I no longer have to do this now but still have a slight fear that vaginismus may somehow come back. I think this may be a common fear too although it is unfounded. Never be sorry about lots of questions – there can never be too many. Please feel free to ask many more.

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on: January 1, 2012, 22:04

It is completely normal to be scared that waking up with the dilator will be scary! I remember thinking what if it doesn't work for me or what if it is more painful than before the botox. I usually don't have to dilate anymore. I am 2 and 1/2 years post botox. I find if it's been awhile since intercourse it does help. I never thought I'd find a cure but the botox was my cure. I had my first gynecological exam this year that was not painful or scary or highly stressful! Please keep us up to date on your progress! I know you will be in wonderful hands.

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on: January 2, 2012, 21:29

@Lou, don't worry everything. Will be fine. When I came out of the procedure I to had to use the restroom, I had a nurse go with me because I still had some anastasia in me. I was in absolute amazement when I took the blue dilator out and realized that I did it! When I put it back in, it went right back in and I was so happy. I had a set of dilators at home that have never been used because I could never talk myself into using them, but now after e procedure I don't mind at all. I use the purple for 30mins and pink 30mins every morning and night. For me sleeping it did not work so on the every other day that we are suppose to sleep in it I just make up the next morning doing 1 hr. I promise you will be able to do and you will feel so wonderful that you are able to do it. They will help you in the office on the day of surgery and e next day to help you in anyway to get comfortable using them. Ellen helped me when I thought I couldn't do it, but once I relaxed I did it!!!! Good luck on your procedure and look forward to hearing you success stories too :)

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Post Re: All Things DILATING
on: January 3, 2012, 16:08

Hi all, thanks for all your responses, I really appreciate it. I'm scheduled in for next week and I am getting more and more nervous now. I hope that I have as much success as you all.

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Post Re: All Things DILATING
on: January 5, 2012, 22:02

Hi Lou! Please know that we are ALL here for you and your procedure is going to go GREAT!!! Have a safe and good trip over this weekend!!!

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Post Re: All Things DILATING
on: January 6, 2012, 05:58

Lou-I'm so happy that the ladies are giving you so much support. Every patient is a bundle of nerves and many cry before their treatment. This is completely normal. I'll have a chance to say hello before your treatment. Once you are in the recovery room we will sedate you enough to remove the anxiety. This is described in my YouTube on anesthesia: "Discussion of the Safety of Anesthesia" http://www.vaginismusmd.com/resources/video-files/ It will be helpful to review this YouTube before arriving. I look forward to meeting you. Dr. Pacik

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