Intimacy in a Relationship: It’s Possible After Vaginismus

Relationship struggles and vaginismus

The best relationships can be summed up with a simple equation: friendship + passion. For many women, vaginismus causes the passion to slip out of the equation. Now, some couples subsist on friendship alone – and that’s great if you’re doing it by choice. Vaginismus removes that choice.

Upset coupleI don’t think I reviewed a vaginismus questionnaire that didn’t in some way indicate the relationship struggles that women experience while suffering from vaginismus. Sexual pain and the inability to have intercourse are serious problems. Some are on the verge of a divorce. Women feel imprisoned by their inability to function as a normal woman, with no way out.

If relationship struggles and vaginismus are affecting you, it may be time to consider our Botox Treatment Program

Unfortunately, one of the major issues in troubled marriages is a diminished sexual relationship. If vaginismus is causing you to drift apart from your partner, it’s time to consider Botox treatment for vaginismus.

Achieving relationship intimacy after vaginismus treatment can elicit a wave of emotions – for both parties. At this stage, communication is key. Let your partner know what feels good and what doesn’t – as it’s happening. It’s also important to discuss your intimacy needs before and after the act. If you’ve been away from intimacy for a while, it’s important to get on the same level as your partner. Too often, couples are embarrassed to ask questions – everyone assumes they’re supposed to know what’s right or what feels good for the other person. Physical intimacy in this sense hinges on the emotional intimacy you have with one another.

Achieve intimacy with your partner by exploring your vaginismus treatment options here.

Visit our VaginismusMD website to read the stories of some of our patients who experienced relationship struggles and vaginismus

Help for VaginismusThese stories are so important. They allow others to understand their own feelings through someone else’s sharing. The stories give definition to what we are feeling. The stories remove us from the isolation that is so frequent in women with vaginismus. The stories also point out that though intercourse is expected after treatment of vaginismus with the Botox program, there is still work that needs to be done to repair relationship issues. Two or three days in the clinic can make a world of difference, but ongoing counseling is important for those whose ghosts follow them.

We asked one of our patients “Ashley” to discuss how vaginismus impacted her relationship in “Relationship Issues” and “Falling Off the Wagon“. Please take the time to read Ashley’s stories. Ashley writes:

“I know the stories of the other women from your book, “When Sex Seems Impossible…”, really made such a difference for me in that it made me realize that I’m not alone in this. So if my story could provide others with that same comfort, then it’s not a difficult decision at all for me.”

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About Dr. Pacik

Peter Pacik, MD, FACS is a recognized pioneer in treating patients with Botox for vaginismus and the author of When Sex Seems Impossible: Stories of Vaginismus and How You Can Achieve Intimacy. He has been in practice for over thirty years and belongs to a small group of prestigious surgeons who are double board certified by both the American Board of Surgery and the American Board of Plastic Surgery. In 2010, Dr. Pacik received FDA approval to continue his study to treat vaginismus using intravaginal injections of Botox together with progressive dilation under anesthesia.
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