Knowing Your Vagina through Self-Discovery

It is important to know your anatomy

Many vaginismus sufferers do not know their own anatomy – most can’t identify their hymen, perineum, urethra, or cervix. Many think that they urinate out of their vagina. They do not know that women urinate out of the urethra – a tube-like structure that is separate from the vagina and leads to the bladder. Most women are embarrassed to admit that they don’t know this information and they are afraid to ask.

Many of my vaginismus patients feel that their vagina may not be big enough to accommodate an erect penis. They are certain that their vagina is not normal in size. A very common question from my patients after their Botox Treatment for vaginismus is: Is my vagina normal? For these women, not knowing if their vagina is normal generates a lot of anxiety and fear.

From one of my treated vaginismus patients:

Knowing your VaginaI have realized through conversations with my husband that I really am afraid of exploring my own body, in particular where my genitalia are concerned and I really don’t know why. At times just reading about my vaginal area makes my knees weak! I’m really trying to get over this because I know that it is another barrier that I must overcome. My husband has challenged me to get a mirror and explore my genitalia and the thought has me freaked out a bit but I do plan on doing this by the end of next week. Any suggestions?

Get up close and personal with your vagina

My advice is to use a hand mirror to explore your vagina. If using a hand mirror to explore is too much too fast, then I suggest that you start with looking at a picture of a vagina – maybe starting with just a few second increasing the amount of time each day. Continuing with this until you no longer feel the distress of looking. Once you are able to look at the picture without distress, you are ready to graduate using a hand mirror for self-discovery! Move slowly – just look at yourself in the mirror for a few seconds, slowly working up to being able to look continuously. Once this is accomplished, you are now ready to start looking and touching. With time and practice, this too will become easier and easier as your anxiety diminishes. These are all important steps to take in order to transition to intercourse after the Botox treatment for vaginismus.

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About Dr. Pacik

Peter Pacik, MD, FACS is a recognized pioneer in treating patients with Botox for vaginismus and the author of When Sex Seems Impossible: Stories of Vaginismus and How You Can Achieve Intimacy. He has been in practice for over thirty years and belongs to a small group of prestigious surgeons who are double board certified by both the American Board of Surgery and the American Board of Plastic Surgery. In 2010, Dr. Pacik received FDA approval to continue his study to treat vaginismus using intravaginal injections of Botox together with progressive dilation under anesthesia.
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