Vaginismus and Infertility

Consummation or consummation of a marriage

In many traditions and statutes of civil or religious law, consummation or consummation of a marriage is the first act of sexual intercourse between two people, either following their marriage to each other or after a prolonged sexual attraction.

Consummation of a marriageFor many women suffering with vaginismus, failure to consummate their marriage and the reality of not being able to have a baby leads to pain, suffering and depression. Because vaginismus is classified as a woman’s problem, she usually considers herself a failure because she cannot have intercourse with her husband or partner. Combining that with the inability to conceive a child now creates additional pressure, anxiety and depression for the vaginismus sufferer. In many instances after years of marriage, she may encounter additional pressure from friends and relatives who start probing into her inability to have children. This creates a situation for her and her husband or partner that is truly intolerable and painful on a daily basis. It is very common for a vaginismus sufferer in this position to spend many hours a day thinking about her condition. As a result, her pain, anxiety and depression become worse by the day.

Strong desire to have a childMotivation for cure of vaginismus = strong desire to have a child

Many women suffering from vaginismus choose this time to seek help to cure their vaginismus. Their desire to have a child is so strong that the motivation to find a cure is high. When I see these women in consultation, I know that they will be successful in transitioning to intercourse because their motivation is high and they will also have the additional help of the Botox injections and the progressive dilation under anesthesia.

It always warms my heart to hear from a patient when they become pregnant. For more information on this subject, please refer to a past blog titled “The Joy of Getting Pregnant After Botox Treatment for Vaginismus”. This blog outlines the stories of some of the women I have treated who have become pregnant and have had children as a result of being cured from their vaginismus.

There is hope in overcoming vaginismus

For all women suffering from vaginismus whom have such a strong desire to conceive, please remember that it is important not to blame yourself for this condition and to be kind to yourself. You need to remember that even though this may have started as a psychological condition because of “fear of penetration and pain”, there is now real spasm that is making sex impossible. Other women in this same situation have been cured and have conceived. There is hope in overcoming vaginismus forever.

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About Dr. Pacik

Peter Pacik, MD, FACS is a recognized pioneer in treating patients with Botox for vaginismus and the author of When Sex Seems Impossible: Stories of Vaginismus and How You Can Achieve Intimacy. He has been in practice for over thirty years and belongs to a small group of prestigious surgeons who are double board certified by both the American Board of Surgery and the American Board of Plastic Surgery. In 2010, Dr. Pacik received FDA approval to continue his study to treat vaginismus using intravaginal injections of Botox together with progressive dilation under anesthesia.
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