Holidays such as wedding anniversaries and Valentine’s Day are especially rough for the women suffering from vaginismus. A lot of women with vaginismus have been dealing with this condition for many, many years. They often indicate that sexual pain and their inability to have intercourse causes serious relationship problems. Often they are on the verge of a divorce and they feel imprisoned by their inability to function as normal women.
We recently treated a woman who was in relationship for 10 years and married for 6 years and was never able to have intercourse until twenty-six days after her Botox treatment for vaginismus. It was an amazing moment for them both with lots of emotion and awe. This awesome moment was achieved just a few days ago – just in time for Valentine’s Day and this patient wrote the following advice that we would love to share with you.
To those still suffering with vaginismus I would say:
Still make time to be intimate with your partner. Make it a priority. You will feel much closer and much more connected if you spend time together being loving even if you cannot “go all the way”. The emotional satisfaction you get from being intimate, even without the actual sex act is very important.
To those who have overcome vaginismus:
What an exciting Valentine’s Day this will be for my hubby and me!! We are planning a romantic evening at home with dinner, candles and all the rest of it! We are feeling a bit like newlyweds after 6 years of marriage and no sex, so we are taking advantage of it! It was always a special day before to reaffirm our love for each other, but now we can show it completely physically as well. That means a lot.
For those considering Dr.Pacik’s Botox treatment procedure for vaginismus:
Do whatever you need to make it happen!! Talk about a life changing procedure! I am now having so much fun preparing for trying to get pregnant in the coming months. That was something I almost thought I would never experience. Thanks to Dr. Pacik, I hopefully will! It is an incredible feeling! It has not come without work though . . . Those dilators have been my nearly constant companions, but it all felt so worth it when we were able to make love for the first time ever! Thank you again!!! :) Happy Valentines!
On our Vaginismus MD Forum, the following posts have previously been written about Valentine’s Day:
Patient 1: Happy Valentine’s Day. Prior to having the Botox treatment procedure and while having vaginismus, my hubby always tried to make the best of Valentine’s Day by making it so special for me but there was a part that was always missing. Now, it’s just seriously awesome and something that we buy costumes for and just enjoy in every single way. This is only our 2nd year ever that we’ve been able to make love on Valentine’s Day compared to the 11+ years that we weren’t and it feels beyond AWESOME! Thank you so much Dr. Pacik!
Patient 2: Hello. This was the best Valentines of my life. We stayed in New York and after 2nd day post op, my husband and I did it for the first time – the real deal. We were beyond excited, happy, amazed and every feeling and emotion was perfect. To a new beginning Dr. Pacik said to us as we left to enjoy our Valentine’s Day in New York. Dr. Pacik, you are my hero and my angel. I am finally healed and I don’t dilate much because we are so active now. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
On Valentine’s Day, we recognize that you may have mixed emotions about this day.
For those who have overcome vaginismus, like the above treated patients, it may represent a “new beginning”. For others still struggling, it may evoke emotions of depression or anxiety. Fortunately, there are many great resources for you to access that can help you vent your feelings, as well as give you some strategies and tips to better manage the day. But know this day too will pass and that you are doing everything possible to make your dreams come true. Also know that we are all here to support you. If you haven’t done so already, please join the VaginismusMD Forum. So many of my patients relate that they have felt isolation for years and have suffered with the condition of vaginismus in silence. Often, only their partner and maybe a doctor know of their condition. With the creation and power of the VaginismusMD Forum, isolation is no longer necessary. Now, there is a place where women no longer feel like they need to hide and that vaginismus is their problem alone. It is a wonderful community of support and encouragement.
If you have any questions about our Botox treatment for vaginismus and progressive dilation under anesthesia, please contact us via our contact us form.