Women who suffer from vaginismus feel alone, isolated, broken, desperate and depressed. While each of these women is unique, their stories share similar themes. They are in unconsummated relationships on the verge of unraveling. They are unable to bear children. They have lived for too long with the deep pain, shame, and confusion associated with this condition called vaginismus.
Visions for VaginismusMD.com
One of my visions in the creation of the VaginismusMD website was to share the stories as told to me by my patients. In a time when so little scientific information is available about vaginismus, it is actually their stories that have been so important for my own education. These stories are the fabric of vaginismus.
“…I just want a normal marriage, a family, to feel like a normal woman. I can’t take another doctor telling me there is nothing left to do, that I have no other option. I feel like this has stopped my whole life and I’m trapped. I’ve hurt the one I love most and I can’t fix it. Please help me. I don’t know what else to do…”
“…I cannot tell you how relieved I am to know that there is still some hope for me. I have been practicing insertion with dilators for some time, but not with much benefit. My eight-year relationship is almost on the verge of break-up because of this…”
“For over six years I didn’t know what was wrong with me. How do you begin to explain that you can’t do something as normal as having intercourse?”
At VaginismusMD, we encourage patients to share their stories. Many of the patients I have treated are committed to outreach, to advocate for other women to help spread the word that vaginismus is a real medical condition, not something just in their heads, and to helping others on their journey to a cure.
Allie’s Journey with Vaginismus
I recently received a story from a woman, Allie, whom I will be treating later this year. As I read her story, I was emotionally touched by all the trauma and heartbreak that this woman went through during the first five years of her marriage.
“. . . As we approached our 5th wedding anniversary I dreaded it. It made me absolutely sick to my stomach. I was in a very bad place. I felt like I didn’t even know who I was anymore. This condition was slowing tearing me apart. The 19-year-old girl who was so happy with life and excited about her future had disappeared. I was a 24-year-old women who could not have sex with her husband. I was so angry. Why couldn’t I find someone to help me?”
Allie’s story is so familiar to me and I feel that it is so important to share stories such as “Allie’s Journey with Vaginismus” with my blog and VaginismusMD website readers. Allie’s story and stories of my other patients are the stories that will help break down the walls of silence so that no women suffering from vaginismus will EVER feel ALONE again.
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