After a patient’s Botox treatment for vaginismus, fear of being trapped is yet another manifestation of the residual fear and anxiety to intercourse, even though one has made monumental progress with dilators. I have heard so often from my patients after Botox treatment for vaginismus that they need to catch up mentally to what they have achieved physically with the dilators.
In a Forum post a new type of fear is described, that of feeling trapped or pinned down. The entire post is worth reading, there is considerable information. I’m also impressed with the innovation of using a Candy Stick vibrator against the glass dilator as described below. The relaxation of the vaginal muscles as a result of using personal massagers has been described by many of my patients.
VaginismusMD Forum Post from Vashalla
This morning, my boyfriend and I were able to have sex for the second time since beginning counseling with Dr. Pacik! Last night, I slept with the #4 glass dilator, and this morning, put in the #5 glass dilator for an hour and a half or so. During our fun time before attempting intercourse, we made an awesome discovery! I have one of the candy stick vibrators, but wasn’t able to insert it at all, so I put the #5 glass dilator back in and had my boyfriend put the vibrator up against the outside of the dilator. It basically turned the dilator into a vibrator of its own! I don’t know how well this would work on the silicone dilators, but would love to hear from other ladies to see what they think. We had some fun trying different ways to use our new found knowledge. Some worked, some just didn’t really do anything for me.
I think doing that really helped my muscles relax enough so that when we tried intercourse, I was able to insert him, even though he’s larger than the #5. I’ve decided as of today to not worry about the #6 dilator at all.
Vashalla explains her feeling of being trapped
This time when we tried inserting him, I was on top. Like last time, this worked, but it also felt a tiny bit sore. Maybe from me tensing my muscles up more because of having to hold myself up. On the other hand, it was less anxiety inducing because I had more control and didn’t feel like I was being pinned down. The last time we tried, it was missionary, and while that worked fine physically, I started having something of a panic attack because I felt trapped. The time before that, we started with me on top and then switched to missionary, and that worked well. I think my take away from that is that we shouldn’t start in a position where I feel trapped, even if it means me feeling a little more sore at first.
Anyway, we then switched so that he was behind me. It was kind of awkward just trying to insert him in that position. We were just trying to figure out the mechanics of that at first. I’m sure that’ll get easier with practice though. Though once he was in, we were able to have pain free enjoyable sex :)
VaginismusMD Forum Goldmine of Information for the Vaginismus sufferer
The VaginismusMD Forum has become a goldmine of information for vaginismus sufferers. If you struggle with vaginismus please introduce yourself on the Forum. There is enormous support from other women and often for the first time you will not feel that you are the only person struggling with vaginismus.
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