The power of a single post on the Vaginismus MD Forum
Recently posted on our Vaginismus Forum was a single entry from a woman who was scheduled for the Botox treatment. She asked if she should bring her new boyfriend along when she gets treated. This one post created a flurry of educational posts that reach far beyond the question. She begins by sharing her story of eleven years of feeling alone after being raped at age 15 and cut with a pocket knife because she could not be penetrated. She had no idea what was wrong and felt “The easiest thing for me to do at the time was to devote my life to my work instead of a life of friends and romance.”
Rachel, a nurse from Canada treated successfully almost three years ago had struggled with vaginismus for eleven years and failed years of therapy, chimed in discussing the psychologic trauma of rape and the importance of once again trusting someone new.
Her husband David, a psychiatric nurse who struggled alongside his wife all these years shared his professional thoughts about post traumatic stress: “The problem with vaginismus, is that it generates a ‘full system response’ where thoughts, emotions and behaviors are extremely powerful. Our thoughts and feelings impact upon our physiology to an extent that we can feel our anxiety in our physical body. Increased heart rate; knot in the stomach; fearful anticipation of pain etc etc. As we experience this anxiety, it leads us to do a very human thing under those difficult circumstances – avoid. The problem with avoidance, is that we are promised escape or freedom from the problem at hand. However, we get anything but freedom. Whenever we avoid, we simply place ourselves into that solitary confinement cell from which there is no escape. Avoiding the matter simply reinforces our fear and dread, making it harder for us to overcome the psychological hurdle (or fortress) that we perceive before us.”
Rachel is currently finalizing a book about vaginismus and David is submitting a paper on vaginismus. Rachel has dedicated her song to women suffering from vaginismus. Alone Anymore touches everyone who has struggled with this condition. I encourage anyone reading this blog to listen to this song.
Others such as Nakitalab, who was successfully treated after struggling with severe grade 5 primary vaginismus for 34 years, GoldDahlia, eight years, Mary 34 years and Tabia, 22 years, all made powerful comments and shared their thoughts.
So much from a single question! This is the power of the Vaginismus MD Forum.
The Vaginismus MD Forum currently consists of a vocal group of over 400 women who participate in commenting on topics ranging from vaginismus causes to vaginismus diagnosis, vaginismus symptoms, vaginismus treatment, dilator therapy, progression to intercourse, vaginismus cure, vaginismus pregnancy, lubricants, vaginismus aids and all topics related to vaginismus. As of July, 2013 with over 235 patients treated and over 300 women who have sent in their questionnaires for evaluation, more than 90% of women go on to normal pain free intercourse with no need for repeat injections of Botox. Many of these women have participated in almost 3000 posts on the Forum covering over 600 topics! In this way the VaginismusMD.com Forum has become a powerful educational tool for all topics related to vaginismus.
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