Song of Vaginismus by Kazia Gray – Music Video “Alone Anymore”
Kazia Gray is one amazing woman. She struggled with vaginismus, unable to achieve intercourse for 12 years despite years of numerous failed treatments. “Amazing” is not a word used lightly, but Kazia and her husband are amazing people. In August 2010 they made a long journey that took them from Vancouver, British Columbia, to Manchester, NH. She and her husband were motivated and dedicated to succeed. In just six days after her Botox treatment she wrote me an email of tip success! Her progress continued despite her 12 hour shifts. By two weeks she was able to fully consummate and wrote:
“There was minimal pain and that was without any Lidocaine either! I was amazed that there was no spasm. I can honestly see a light at the end of the tunnel now. . . . finally!”
She is amazing also because even before she knew she would be successful, she was already advocating for other women. They picked up 10 books (“When Sex Seems Impossible. Stories of Vaginismus & How you can Achieve Intimacy”) and began giving them to the doctor’s at her hospital. In her email to me she wrote:
“After I get through this and things have settled I would very much like to be an advocate and help in any way that I can bringing vaginismus to light. I don’t know how I could best help but if there is anything I can do I would be most willing. I have even thought about a change in career direction – maybe taking on a counseling course/trauma course to better help other people and also sharing my story with others. At the moment I still feel fragile with being open, but after I have beaten this I want to educate people and support people through this horrible ordeal.”
She went on to counsel many women who inquired about the procedure and gave freely of her time.
Music Video by Kazia Gray – “Alone Anymore”
She continued her search for advocating for other women and without my knowing composed a song that brings tears to many eyes which can be heard by linking to “Alone Anymore“.
On their way to Scotland I had the pleasure of having them drop by my home. We talked, we cried. We were so delighted that they stopped by to see us. She surprised me once again by bringing along a 170 page book about vaginismus that she plans to publish.
We all feel the need to get vaginismus more well known. To prevent the long unnecessary struggling that women feel is their cross. Please listen to Kazia Gray’s song Alone Anymore and shout it to the world. Link this song to wherever you can think to link to, so that it becomes viral. Tell your friends and your relatives and have them link also. What a wonderful way for women to tear off the shackles of isolation, to break down the walls of silence and scream the word “vaginismus” so that everyone hears it loud and clear.
“You don’t have to be afraid anymore
You don’t have to be alone anymore”
Who would have ever thought the power of a song!
About Kazia Gray
Kazia Gray is also a blogger. I highly recommend her blog “Vaginismus, Infertility and Relationships“. Her profile as a blogger states the following: I am a 35 year old who has suffered with Vaginismus for over 12 years. I recently overcame my vaginismus with the help of botox injections. I now have been told that my husband is infertile and that we cannot have children without IVF treatment. I have a desire to encourage other women suffering with vaginismus that there is hope. I also want to see the day when Vaginismus is recognized as a condition and that women can get the help they need.
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