“Vaginismus is extremely emotionally draining and embarrassing; I feel isolated. The uncontrollable vaginal muscle spasms are unbelievably irritating and I cry so much that I cannot cry anymore.”
Rae, a 26 year old determined patient, struggled with some of the most severe vaginismus I have treated. Despite 28 weeks of attempted dilation, 12 weeks of psychotherapy and one year of using lubes, she was unable to make any progress. The following quotes from Rae were written on our Forum describing her journey from severe vaginismus, treatment of vaginismus using our Botox program, to success!
“I was very nervous – Vaginal muscles begin pulsating/clenching, hyperventilating, break out into hives, legs begin to shake, feel nauseated, feel like I am going to faint, legs close without reminder to keep them open, start crying and moving myself to the top of the examination table unknowingly, etc. I have gotten to the point to when I even think about vaginal penetration that my vaginal muscles begin to clench and spasm.”
First attempted intercourse
“For our premarital counseling sessions we decided to take an oath of sexual purity that allowed no sexual touching, fondling, etc. until our wedding night so we were both very much looking forward to that day.”
At the age of 26 she married. Her honeymoon was a disaster.
“It seemed like we could not find the correct location of the opening and it would never slide in anywhere. We have tried countless strategies and attempts to have successful intercourse, but none has proven successful.”
Impact of vaginismus on their relationship
“Vaginismus has created an almost unbearable strain on our relationship. It has caused our relationship to have an immense emotional gap, trust issues, loss of closeness, inability to live out some of our dreams, etc. One of the reasons we had trust issues is that my mother told me that the reason why my ex-fiancé cheated on me was because I would not have sex with him; so oftentimes, I worry that my husband will cheat on me because I cannot have sex with him.
Every time my husband and I “practice” he feels like he is doing something wrong/raping me because of my nervousness and crying. I get frustrated and overcome with sadness every time I see that another one of my friends is pregnant or how an underage child can have sex and I cannot. Vaginismus is extremely emotionally draining and embarrassing; I feel isolated. The uncontrollable vaginal muscle spasms are unbelievably irritating and I cry so much that I cannot cry anymore.
My husband and I decided that we were ready to start trying to have children and to look for a home. Both of these dreams are on hold until we can overcome vaginismus while our family continues to question when we are going to procreate.
My husband had been previously sexually active before me . . . Now with untreated vaginismus, it seems like there is no hope . . .
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